No apology needed for distress

[TW This post mentions emotional abuse and sexual assault] A while ago, I noticed that lots of people (including myself) say sorry for having emotional difficulties. I've heard people apologise over and over again for distress caused by childhood emotional abuse, sexual assault, abusive relationships amongst other things. I have apologised so many times to people I love, doctors, nurses, therapists and others for simply being in emotional pain. I wrote 'No Apology' when I realised that even though I apologise for hurting, I haven't done anything wrong. No Apology She should not apologise for the trauma that formed her. Or for the fire that warmed her, burned her, turned her to ashes and reig

Book Review Video: Mindfulness for BPD

Ref: Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder: Relieve Your Suffering Using the Core Skill of Dialectical Behavior Therapy by Blaise Aguirre and Gillian Galen (New Harbinger, 2013).

BPD & the abandoned child schema

Many people with a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) have been through difficult or traumatic experiences in childhood, including abuse, emotional deprivation or the chronic invalidation of emotions. In short, many adults with this diagnosis didn't receive the emotional support and safety that they needed in their formative years. [Image of white blossom and blue sky. The text reads 'Many people with BPD had difficult, often traumatic, experiences in childhood'] Borderline personality disorder and unmet childhood needs Schema therapy offers an explanation as to why an adult with BPD might feel and behave like an abandoned child. Put simply, schemas are patterns of feelings,

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