Having more — and more nuanced — stories and representations matters to me. Having published two books exploring stigmatised lived experiences, I want to support other writers navigating the complex emotional and relational questions that may arise when writing about lived experience — particularly experiences that face stigma, including (but not limited to) mental health difficulties. Questions such as: • How much do I want to disclose and how can I do this in a way that wor

Earlier this year, I was lucky enough to be invited to present a webinar to National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder (NEABPD) Family Connections™. I was asked if I wanted to speak after my podcast episode with 'All In The Mind' aired on the Australian Broadcasting Company. NEABPD are a brilliant organisation based in Australia. They provide education for people experiencing the emotional dysregulation and struggles associated with the BPD diagnosis, as

I tell my stories and share my experiences because I believe my silence perpetuates ongoing harms. I speak up and I speak out because, most of the time, I feel I can and, all of the time, I feel I should. I am me and I want to carry my lived experiences of mental health problems as bridges and not burdens. Stories matter. Their type and their number. The more nuanced and individualised stories that are heard about lived experiences, the richer the narratives become. Mental he

I'm excited that my new book, The Talking About BPD Workbook: Reflections and Creative Prompts for Exploring Your Life with a Diagnosis of BPD, has finally hit the shelves! I started writing the book way back in December 2023 and, as of a few weeks ago, it's been in the hands of eager readers. That feels amazing. It's is a reflective and exploratory workbook for exploring things like your identity, relationships, emotions, diagnosis and experiences of stigma. It's ideal for a

It's going to be impossible to write a reflection on 2025, but I'm going to try. It will be scattered and incomplete, especially given how tired I am right now. Regardless of what emerges in this post, this blog offers —imperfectly and messily— a record of some of my thinking from the course of the year. Posts like 'Nearly a third of Adults not comfortable sharing a diagnosis with a friend. Here's Why I Share', 'What If This Diagnosis Were To Be Creatively (Generously, even A

Over the next few weeks and months, you can expect to see some thinking and writing from me on the theme of neurodivergence and BPD. It's something that's been bubbling away in my mind for some time, particularly whilst writing my new book. I'm not necessarily going to be writing about autism and ADHD in relation to the BPD diagnosis. I'm aware of the alarming rates at which autistic people and/or individuals with ADHD are being incorrectly diagnosed with BPD. It's more that

Last spring, I started therapy again with a new therapist. It feels strange to finally write this because I've been silent about it on my blog until now. I've kept it to myself and just a few people I'm comfortable speaking with about it because, understandably, it all feels very personal. In fact, this post itself feels on the more personal side for me (eek), but I've decided I'm going to post it anyway. For most of my early and mid twenties, I was engaged in some sort of lo

Metacommunication can be described as communicating about how you’re communicating— and you probably do it without even realising you’re doing it. I didn’t realise I was using metacommunication until I started using it more and more frequently with my husband and in some of my friendships. Once I became aware of the presence of metacommunication in my conversations, I noticed that I was using it to promote a sense of emotional safety when talking about mental health. Since be

I'm very excited to announce that The Talking About BPD Workbook: Reflections and Creative Prompts for Exploring Your Life with a Diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder by me is now open for pre-orders. You can find in all of the usual places where you buy your books! I'm really excited to bring this book to readers. It's a book about identity, relationships, how you feel about yourself. Inside, you’ll find reflections and creative prompts to explore the kinds of questi

A few weeks ago, I had the pleasure of chatting with Anna Bontovics (they/them), also known as Nush, about their new play about BPD entitled The Love We Think We Deserve. I was so excited when Anna got in touch with me at the end of summer to tell me about their important show. The Love We Think We Deserve has my huge respect for several reasons, but first and foremost it's the first piece of theatre I’ve ever come across to shine a spotlight on the BPD diagnosis. I was curio