Video: Invalidating environments & BPD

An invalidating environment is one that teaches a child that their thoughts and feelings are wrong, shameful or ‘too much’. Invalidating environments do not give children the skills to name, regulate or cope with their emotions effectively. Marsha Linehan, the psychologist who created Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), explained that an invalidating environment can play a role in developing BPD. my video on invalidating environments Here are a few examples of invalidating statements: - Stop being so such a cry baby. - You have no reason to be upset. - Other people don’t get so emotional. - Why do you always have to create drama? - You should be over it by now. - Quit your crying. Children

Q&A With Kathy Lisborg

Kathy Lisborg is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in Niagara Falls, New York. Kathy works in the areas of trauma, grief, personality disorders and dual diagnosis. She is currently pursuing her doctorate of social work at the University of Buffalo. The Q&A with Kathy is only the second guest post by a mental health professional that I have published on Talking About BPD. (The first, and very different post, was by researcher and MBT therapist Dan Warrender). What do you like most about working with people with BPD? I enjoy working with people who have complex issues [complex meaning made up of several parts]. I work hard to help people understand the layers of their mental health iss

Writing a Book based on this blog !

As I have mentioned on Twitter, I am busy working on a book specifically for people newly diagnosed with BPD. It aims to be a helpful, comforting resource for people who are newly diagnosed complete with coping tips and stories from my life to show you that you're not alone. My book offers an alternative to the stigmatising websites, books and YouTube videos that are all sadly over the internet and book shops. I am absolutely loving writing the book because I get to share my thoughts about why people with BPD deserve so much more care than they often get. It means so much to me to be able to do this. I will keep you updated throughout the writing and editing process, so please check back soo

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If you like Talking About BPD, please consider giving a small donation towards my website subscription cost on Ko-Fi if you are in a position to do so. I keep everything free of charge so that my content is available to as many people as possible and don't make any money off my blog or social media. I wasn't paid for the BBC video I did nor was I paid for any magazine features and or podcasts I have done. Any small donations that anyone can kindly offer will contribute to my running costs which is primarily my website subscription (a couple of hundred pounds per year). I want to say a big thank you to the people who have 'bought me a ko-fi' so far and helped me towards my website subscriptio

How Can I Help A Loved One With BPD?

This is one of my most frequently asked questions, so I decided to share my thoughts on it. I think there are as many ways of helping someone as there are individuals because everyone has their own needs and wishes when it comes to support. That being said, I have definitely noticed some general themes of what often works and what usually doesn't, so thought I would outline these below... 1. Ask "how can I support you?" Asking the person with BPD how they want to be helped gives them an opportunity to share their preferences and priorities. Often people with BPD can be embarrassed or ashamed to ask for help and accepting support from others can be hard due to feeling undeserving of it. If so

Frequently Asked Questions

Here are the answers to some of the questions I am most frequently asked. I hope these videos are helpful or comforting for you. Can I have happy relationships even though I have bpd? What is DBT & how can it help? What books do you recommend about about BPD? What does a BPD 'episode' feel like? Do you take medication? When is it a good time to tell someone I have BPD? Thanks for watching! I try to publish new videos every few weeks, so subscribe to my channel if you want to hear about them.

Original Drawings Now On Sale!

I love to draw and have some original illustrations that I am selling. They are £10 each (via PayPal), but if you are on a low income or have no income and would like to have one then please let me know. Each of these illustrations are black ink on 300 GSM watercolour paper and are A5. I always hope my art can bring someone comfort or validation. Payment can be done via PayPal which is a secure online payment method. 'I'm allowed to cry': 'Your emotions are valid': 'My emotions are valid': I also take commissions, so just let me know if I can do something similar and personalised to you. You can view my more of my artwork here.

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