
I write and talk about my life with a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder, known as BPD.
BPD is one of the most highly-stigmatised and contested diagnoses in psychiatry, so many people don't feel safe or comfortable openly sharing their experiences. About ten years ago though, I started writing—and then also speaking— about my experiences, even when people told me to stay silent.
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People with BPD are misunderstood, misrepresented and treated with unfair coldness. I want a society in which people with this diagnosis are understood by others as well as themselves, are treated with warmth, respect and feel positively about who they are. If you're looking for any these things, I hope you feel a little of them here with me.
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Carpe Diem and Clarity. You've Been Great, 2024.

Need for 'Certainty'. Need To Let It Go.

From Silence to Speaking: A (Hopeful) Look Inside My Sketchbooks

I Don't Run From those Vulnerable Parts of Me: How My Relationship Works

Friendship By Letters: Why I Love Having a Penpal

The Diagnosis Debate: Should The BPD Diagnosis Go?

Writing a Blog: Why I Do It & My Questions For You If You Want To Begin

'How Did You Write (and Publish) a Book?' And Other Book-Related FAQs

'There's another field I see: by your light.'— Virginia Woolf. A Few Thoughts on Friendship

Meeting Others with Similar Experiences: Thoughts On My 'Feeling positively about yourself when you have a BPD diagnosis' Event

Who Speaks? Who Listens? Jonny Walker's 'Remaining Human as an Educator'

"I don't know why it's so hard to just…say it." Depictions of Mental Health Problems In Heartstopper Season 2

Most Days Are Good Days, But Today I Feel Awful

Stop press. You can be a great parent *And* have a BPD Diagnosis

Did I Embarrass Myself Again? Or Is Everything Actually Okay (Again)?

Problem Solving With Imaginary Friends: Seeing Things From Different Perspectives

How 'Arts In Health' Helped me to 'Be Myself'

5 DBT Skills For Feeling Fragile

'A ruffled mind makes a restless pillow': My relationship with Sleep


A Wildly Different Life Is Possible: A Trip Into My Old Sketchbooks

What stories can I tell now? Nine Haikus for National Poetry Day

Living By Your Values: Russ Harris' 'Values-Guided Action'

Online Event: Feeling positively about yourself when you have a diagnosis of BPD

What Threads Run Through Your Life? Go With Your fascinations!

Shame, WhatsApp & Why I Don't Live Under a Rock Even Though Sometimes I Want To

Hey, Can We Talk (About That Deeply Personal Thing You Wrote)?

The 'Worry Hierarchy' On My Fridge & How It's Reducing My Anxiety

'I Don't Want To Be Seen As Incapable': Why I Often Mask My Mental Health Problems

Hopeful, positive role models for BPD in the Media

FAQ: 'What Helps You Live An Enjoyable Life With BPD?'

My Lifelong love of Journalling, Diary Writing & Scrapbooks

Reviewing 'The Queer Mental Health Workbook: A Creative Self-Help Guide Using CBT, CFT and DBT'


My Most Accurate Description of the Highs and The Lows

10 (Weird & Wonderful?) Things I Do To Balance My Unruly Emotions

'I See Why You Feel That Way, Even Though I Think You're Wrong!' Myths About Validation

Know thyself. And believe thyself!

How Can Healthcare Professionals Create Emotional Safety?

My New Book Q&A

I Still Struggle (A Lot) Sometimes
